Finding Love

This March I will have been living with a spinal cord injury for 16 years. Wow how the time has flown by! It seems like it was just yesterday I finding out that I was going to be paralyzed for the rest of my life. I remember lying in the hospital bed trying to foresee what my future held now that I was paralyzed from the waist down. One thought kept coming back and forth in my mind; would I find someone to love the new me?

The answer was yes! I found out quickly after my accident that if you are yourself and don’t hide behind your wheelchair, women will see you and not your wheelchair. After being in a couple of long relationships, that didn’t seem to be leading anywhere, I prayed to God and asked him to show me who he wanted me to spend the rest of my life with. I was tired of being in relationships that were not moving forward.

A few months went by and one day my sister-in-law asked me if I would want to go out on a date with someone she worked with. I said sure. She gave me a phone number; the next day I called and spoke with Jena to set up a time to go out on a date. We decided to go out Friday evening. Friday rolled around and I went to pick up my date. I pull up at her house. She walked out to my truck and opened the door and smiled at me. When I saw that smile, I was in love at first sight!


We ended up going out to eat and after dinner we saw a movie. I was a gentleman and just held her hand during the movie. I remember driving her back home and how I didn’t want the date to end. I asked Jena if she would want to go with me to a Clemson baseball game the next day. She said yes!

To make a long story short, we have been together since our first date. I was truly honest about my disability from the get go and Jena fell in love with me regardless and didn’t see any flaws in me!


Jena and I have been together for 10 years this March and have been married for 6 years. We got married October 9, 2010. I am truly blessed and thank God for giving me with such a beautiful, sweet and caring woman to spend the rest of my life with.

Finally, my advice to those who, like me, are questioning if they can find someone to love you regardless of your disability. Yes, you can and I know you will find that someone. Again, just be honest about everything regarding your disability and give it to God. I truly believe He has a special love for each person!


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